In Pursuit of Significant Relationship

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Many girls write posts about how they don't want a man's car, money, and gifts, but the value their time, smile, honesty, effort, and being a priority. Some girls believe God is saving them for the right person. Which is correct, and all of these things can be good if viewed through the correct lense. But through the incorrect unrepentant, unsurrendered, unbroken heart, these things become simply lukewarm moral therapeutic deism, and not Jesus.

Girls, God is not a tool that allows you to get some sort of dream man who will idolize you. You say you dont want that? But how can you, when you just said you want his time, effort, smile, priority, honestly, as if you are the object of his worship, instead of a piece of his affections. And no you can't have all my affection, because all my affection belongs to Jesus (remember heart, mind, soul, strength?).

I can tell you one thing. I don't want someone who I can give my time, money, effort too, so as to only please their desires apart from Christ! Neither do I want someone who would reduce a relationship to these things either. No absolutely not I want someone who can worship Jesus Christ with me. I want someone who can suffer with me! A suffering soul I will not despise. 

Doesn't sound very attractive, because it's not meant to be. Don't sign for Jesus without counting the cost. A man's priority is not to make you happy women, it's worship God. That entails giving time, effort, and pure love to your spouse but effort, prioritization, and time certainly does not define your relationship, and will not lead to pure love apart from Christ. 

Relationships built on "good effort" won't last the tidal waves of life. Only relationships built inside of Jesus Christ can endure every assault and come out refined and pure. That might seem very narrow-minded but I am not talking about whether your marriage will survive before men, I am talking about whether it will survive in your heart! True love comes from the source of true love not apart from it! 

Jesus said, if any man wishes to follow me let him take up his cross daily. Daily. Say that to consumeristic Americans praying for a yacht, and so that their wife will be hotter than their neighbors.

"Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends."(John 15:13)

So this is the condition I put before any girl seeking something real. I mean really real. Not Barney & Friends, not Pride & Prejudice, or Gone with the Wind, or Dorian Grey. You must abandon yourself in pursuit of each other. 

Those preconditions we set when we look for a significant other are merely attributes of Christ we want to see in someone else. Let me tell you, come to Jesus fully surrendered, and all the riches and glories of love with its sweetest fragrances will overflow in rich aroma around your soul, that you can't resist it. All those things you seek in your spouse, are really just one quality we all need. Christ-likeness. Then time, effort, prioritization, money, smiles will continue to reign down on you as you continue to abandon yourself in pursuit of Jesus.

Many a man proclaims his own steadfast love but a faithful man who can find? (Proverbs 20:6)